Many fall in the face of chaos, but not this one, not today

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Cake day: June 13th, 2023
  • @Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What's the point in getting married?English
    9•1 month ago

    A wedding can cost almost nothing. I found a very small local poor church and offered them $100 bucks to use the place on a Saturday. I baked a big cake, decorated it plain white. I overnight smoked a brisket, made a pan of Mac and cheese.

    Got a friend to officiate, and told our friends and families a month in advance. We told everyone it was a potluck. We got $100 plain rings. My grandmother ended up buying some cool flowers for decorations. A friend played some music on the church speakers.

    All in, it probably cost us $400 out of pocket, and we got enough cash from attendees to cover that and pay for us to take off work for the week to just hang out and move in together, staycation style. To be fair, I don’t think either of us would have wanted a vacation style honeymoon, we did that kind of thing later. That first week was a lot of figuring out how to live together, so that took time.

    So it’s possible to have a big party with friends and family, but spend very little. Just have everyone bring some food and it’ll work out.

    Studies show that folks are less likely to have a happy long term marriage the more they spend on a wedding. It’s a pretty clear correlation that expensive weddings typically make folks more unhappy and starts the relationship off with more financial stress. So, don’t feel bad about being frugal! As long as you are both happy, it can be very inexpensive.

  • @Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtoProgramming@programming.dev•Genuine Question - have you migrated DBMS on a Production System which wouldn't have been possible with vendor lock-in on the backend?English
    9•1 year ago

    I suppose this is a hot take, but I’d never intentionally select a closed source paid database or programming language. Your data is the most valuable thing you have. The idea that you’d lock yourself into a contract with a third party is extremely risky.

    For example, I’ve never seen a product on Oracle that didn’t want to migrate off, but every one has tightly coupled everything Oracle so it’s nearly impossible. Why start with Oracle in the first place? Just stay away from paid databases, they are always the wrong decision. It’s a tax on people who think they need something special, when at most they just need to hire experts in an open source database. It’ll be much much cheaper to just hire talent.

    Meanwhile I’ve done two major database shifts in my career, and you are correct, keeping to ANSI standard SQL is extremely important. If you’re on a project that isn’t disciplined about that, chances are they are undisciplined about so many other things the whole project is a mess that’ll be gone in ten years anyway. I know so few projects that have survived more than fifteen years without calls for a “rewrite”. Those few projects have been extremely disciplined about 50% of all effort is tech debt repayment, open source everything, and continuous modernization.

  • @Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtoProgramming@programming.dev•Is TypeScript a fad or is my manager delusional?English
    15•1 year ago

    I don’t think it’s going away until ECMA supports native types. Until then it’s the best game in town.

    If a team decides to move away from it, it’s only few hours work to entirely remove. So even if it’s going away, it’s risk free until then.

    But I cannot imagine why any team would elect to remove Typescript without moving to something else similar. Unless it’s just a personal preference by the developers who aren’t willing to learn it. It removes so many issues and bugs. It makes refactoring possible again. I think teams that want to remove all types are nostalgic, like a woodworker who wants to use hand tools instead of power tools. It’s perfectly fine, and for some jobs it’s better. But it’s not the most efficient use of a team to build a house.

  • @Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the next big thing we should all become early adopters of?English
    12•1 year ago

    Bidet attachment for a toilet. You can get them cheap, or spend a bit more for heated seats, warmed water, fans for drying, etc. Best bathroom decision ever.

    Countertop electric water distiller. For a reasonable price you can get a countertop water distiller that runs a gallon for like $0.15. No more microplastics, chlorine, ammonia, lead, or facial matter in your drinking water! Tastes SO GOOD, nothing like the plastic filled distilled water from the store, blech. Every time we make a batch, we’ll smell the sticky residue left in the heating chamber and gag. It is nasty stuff. In our tap water, gross. Clean water for me please! Makes our coffee, tea, and kumbucha taste a lot better too.

    Getting into a healthy BMI and daily exercise is pretty epic too. You’ll just feel better every day.

    As climate change gets worse, having resilience like stored food and water will be helpful to deal with more frequent natural disasters. No sense bothering with fancy meal packets, a couple dozen big cans of dried beans will go a long way if there’s a shelter in place order.

  • @Pencilnoob@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•How did you lose weight?English
    5•1 year ago

    From 2013 to 2017 I lost 60 pounds and I’ve kept it off since.

    I tried everything to lose that fat.

    I’ve tried at different times: keto, calorie counting, intermittent fasting, low fat, low carb, Soylent, cutting alcohol, high fiber, if it fits your macros, power lifting, CrossFit, running, vegan, vegetarian, carnivore, and Renaissance periodization.

    What’s actually worked consistently for losing and keeping it off? Simple. Intermittent fasting 20/4 with low carb during the week, free cheat weekends, and no alcohol ever. With that protocol I can control my weight to the pound, consistently, and I’ve held it there for over 5 years.

    It’s such a great feeling to be totally in control of it.